I love this video of us. It reminds me that 1., we have a lot of fun together ( both as a couple and as a family of 5+5), and 2., that we need more of these random videos. The kids do them all the time whether on their YouTube channels, movie maker programs on their tablets, or using hilarious apps like TikTok. They have so much fun making them and put so much thought into them. Time for us to up our game Aronson.
People often talk about how all we see on the social media pages of our friends, family, and acquaintances are their perfect lives. I don’t believe this to be totally true as I respect those sharing their darkest and most challenging circumstances and I see it often on my feeds. Other than the untimely death of our beloved dog, Gracie, Tara and I’s social media surely does depict more perfection than folly. Of course, it’s anything but. I mean, we have blended two adults, 3 girls, and 5 critters in an old, large but oddly laid out northeast Hamilton home in need of much TLC.
We’ve been through many challenges as 10 heartbeats under one roof, but the fact that we are still going strong at soon to be 4 years, is largely in part to moments like this video above or the image below of us making the best out of 8 some odd hours in the emergency room in Parry Sound waiting for two girls with ear infections to be seen.
We have a lot of fun together. We all help in our community. We all talk a lot about our dreams, our fears, our challenges and how we make one another feel. We love to be creative, silly, and show compassion for people and critters alike in our community. We are all one another’s cheerleaders. We are the arms we need around us when in need of a snuggle, consoling, or a sweet goodnight. We are ears when a talk is needed or an exciting story is anxiously waiting to be shared, or hands when things need fixing, homework is due, or we are working on joint projects together.
Of course our lives are far from perfect. We fight, argue, yell, slam doors, swear, cry, vent, etc. We’re human. We’re 5+5 in a house not really well designed for our blended family.
Tara and I don’t really fight though. I attest this to life and relationship experience, personality types that rarely clash, similar family values, strong family and friendship bonds, and two single parents that came together looking for a little happiness for ourselves, but mostly looking for a great life for our children. We both love the 80’s, romance, Friends, Grey’s Anatomy, Fuller House, people, kids, animals, local small businesses, and talking about making our neighborhood, our city, and our world a better place for our children. She does like reality cooking shows and The Walking Dead though. I won’t hold those against her.
I believe I speak for all of us – animals included, when I say that we all couldn’t have asked for a better second chance at love, at family life, and have all found dear friends and lifelong partners in crime at 252. I also know that Tara and I didn’t find just a little happiness for ourselves. I can see it in the way she looks at me and smiles, with how much she loves my girls, her patience and the fact that she is still around through everything that has been thrown in our path.
Here are just a few images below of the silly fun Tara and I have enjoyed together these past four years. A certain Stevie Nicks suddenly song comes to mind.
Our lives aren’t perfect. We just love highlighting the positive and by doing this, we realize those tough times at the end of the day are far fewer and far between than the good we love to share.